"... a harsh word stirs up anger" (Proverbs 15:1 TNIV).

There is something downright vicious going on out there today. Everybody is passing judgment on you. They are assigning worth to you by measuring your performance. Your boss is criticizing you. Or, if you are the boss, the board has set the date for your annual performance review. Everybody ís a critic!

Okay, there is a certain legitimacy to it. People can't be carried on the payroll who don't perform. Incompetent persons in critical roles gum up the works for everybody else. Accountability is a good thing. But some things that are done in the name of evaluation and accountability are mean. Hateful. Destructive.

There is such a thing as a critical spirit that perpetually leaves in its wake a bevy of wounded souls and countless damaged or destroyed relationships. Harsh criticism from people who enjoy dishing it out is like a battering ram against even the most secure, strong-willed people in the world.

Enough whining now! The issue is not to decide whether or not such critics exist or ever level their guns on you or me. The question is how to handle it and what sort of person to be in our roles.

Contrary to some religious representations of God, the divine role is not that of super-critic and soul-damner. Oh, he holds us accountable. But the accountability he enforces is simply that of forcing us to face the consequences of our choices. It is what a good parent allows with beloved children who need help in growing up into mature human beings.

Be an encourager, not a critic.

The truth is that God loves you so deeply that he will not love you less when you do something wrong. Ever been a parent? When your child messes up is when you are more aggressive to communicate your unconditional love.

When you know you are loved by God, feel secure in his acceptance, and experience the peace that comes of that relationship, you begin to understand how to relate to other people. You love your children on the model of God's own love for you. You build the key relationships of your life on acceptance rather than skepticism. That is, you assign worth to persons as persons and refuse to make others feel they must earn your love by measuring up.

All of a sudden, you can learn from your mistakes rather than be crushed under their weight. You can hold others accountable and still treat them with respect and affirm their worth. You will even develop the ability to distinguish a cold from cancer — treating only the really serious things seriously and otherwise letting some things slide that don't deserve to be blown out of proportion.

If the vicious spirit of harsh judgment invades your world today, be sure it gets there through someone other than you. Be an encourager, not a critic.

 

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Title: "Something Better Than a Critic"
Author: Rubel Shelly
Publication Date: September 04, 2007

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